Angela | Keeping the Faith
Disclaimer – I am not a doctor, nutritionist, or professional fitness guru. I am sharing what I’ve learned through research and experience; you all must use your own judgment in deciding what is best for you and your own health, including checking with your doctor before beginning any exercise or dietary program.
Greetings! Yes, I know I hinted at talking about Exercise this week, but honestly? I’ve done enough tossing of facts and figures the past several weeks. Moreover, my own heart needs a little pep talk, and this little ditty is needed more than an essay extolling the virtues of exercise. I’ll get back with you on that next week.
The Pea Family has had a rough week. It’s been over-full with the boys’ school events, work deadlines for myself and Mr. Pea, the looming worry of sequestration (Mr. Pea is employed by a defense contractor), Miss Kasey’s visit to the vet for spaying, math tests, a Spanish project, plumbing problems at our rental property, Princess Pea’s fender bender, tax preparations,…the list goes on and on.
Remember back in PSA#2 when I said that the physical act of losing weight really is as simple as eat-less-move-more-repeat and that the mental and spiritual aspects are a bit more complicated? Complicated doesn’t begin to describe my ongoing struggles. I’ve been working on getting healthy for a long time, but when I get stressed and tired, I still turn to food for comfort! Oh yes, I’m turning to God first in prayer, but that incredible yearning for physical yummy-food comfort still makes me nuts. My brain knows better than this! Once I head down that path and succumb to the chocolate/cheese/bread/ice cream bender, Olivia, my Inner Brat, starts yelling at me. “Epic Fail!”, or “Oooooh, You’re SO BAD!!”; or even “You’ll never succeed at this – you’re getting fat again!” [yeah right…as if fifty pounds are magically going to appear overnight]. The Self-Bashing has begun.
Self Bashing = using negative terms to refer to yourself, your behavior, or your actions
Since I’m pretty sure I’m not alone here, let’s get this straightened out, Miss Olivia.
RIGHT THIS INSTANT!!
First, the greatest cheerleader in your life is you. Not your Mom, not your BFF, not your husband or boyfriend, not me. It’s all you, Sweetie. You live with yourself twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. You know yourself better than anyone else on the face of this planet.
You cannot go through your days slapping destructive, negative labels on your forehead every time you miss a workout session or eat something fattening.
They’ll get tangled in your hair and leave sticky goo on your face.
Would you berate a little kid for eating a poptart, shaking your finger in his face and calling him a failure? Would you tell your Mom “You’re a bad person” if for some reason or another she didn’t run a mile yesterday? Would you scream at your boss for eating a donut? No, of course not.
Then why the heck do you treat yourself that way?
You are a sentient creature, perfect in your creation, and you have a free will. This means that you are good, beautiful and complete simply because you exist. Because you breathe, walk, talk and think, you are the most amazing being in God’s creation. You are not a failure because you ate x-number of calories yesterday. You are not bad because you put something sweet in your mouth. You sometimes use your free will to make a poor choice, but you are not bad. You are NOT a failure.
What would you say to a child who has made a mistake? You’d forgive them, help them clean up the mess and then get on with the day. That is exactly how you should treat yourself. Pick yourself up, clean up the mess and move on. If you need help getting up, then ask someone. If you need help with the mess, ask someone. Poor choices are part of the weight loss game. They’re going to happen. Learn from them.
“Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.”
I’ll repeat it again – the physical part of losing weight is actually quite simple and very easy to do – eat less, move more, repeat. The mental part is a bazillion times more complicated. The mental part starts with loving yourself, deciding to care for the body God made, making it healthy and strong. It continues with loving yourself, developing good eating habits and exercising. It ends with loving yourself and reaching out to others to share that love.
Love God above all else – love your neighbor as yourself. As Yourself. YOURSELF.
Love Yourself. Keep the Faith.